Smacking is is usually the result of a parent venting their anger - and rarely does it reflect calm control and predictability that provides the context for a child that prepares them for social interaction later.
Observation of a child who was beaten in the name of proper discipline (as a two year old) resulted in a dyslexic child who learned how to lie rather than face up to problems.
It indicates that a diabolical relationship exists between parents inflicting infants with violence as control and crime becoming a solution to life's problems as the child becomes an adult.
We are not "good hats" and "bad hats". We are complex creatures who learn primarily from experience and secondarily from information. Our experiences are more powerful influences than information. Love is our most powerful interaction.
Smacking children causes problems.
Children in Rudolf Steiner education are brought up gently, with a respect for them as individuals. Smacking is not necessary.
The kids I know who were brought up in this way are socially advanced adults.
The kids I know who were brought up with early parental violence are constantly in trouble with the police.
Mild smacking or if it is very rare may have a benefit, nobody is arguing against that. But parental violence is an intergenerational madness and it is the parent that can stop it, not the child.
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